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août 2005 Is It Just Me...Good Evening,
I hope this entry finds all is well with each and every one of you who happen to cruise through my space and read my entry today.
It is now five minutes until midnight and I still have not crossed off my "must do today" list at least five errands, chores, banking, phonecalls, paperwork, paying the bills, grocery shopping, laundry, meals, school lunch to go, snacks ! Please note, I am not complaing, just wondering how I ever did it.
There was a time when I worked in Marketing/ PR/Sales up to 65 hours a week, was a single foster parent for two toddlers at a time, attended both day and evening network groups and managed a healthy balance of fun, exercise, family socializing, reading and much more: as well as the day to day chores of the home upkeep.
  How did I do it? I just do not get it. It seems now that I have children of my own, of school age, life changes. I am so overwhelmed at times, each task seems to loom over my head: so I freeze and just never get it all done. I am not complaing, my kids ARE MY WORLD, MY LIFE, MY LOVES.
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But, and that is a big but ( not big butt - lol) Let's face it, my life as I once lived it is over. Once we become parents,it is no longer about us, it is ALL about the children. Again, please remember I am not complaining...my little family is my greatest Blessing.
 School, homework, laundry, volunteering, Karate, swim lessons, dance, Sunday school, Sunday Service, hugs, kisses, boo-boos to bandage, laundry, bullies to conquer, proper clothes and shoes for the school activitie of the day, laundry, chasing toys around the house, setting up GameCube, V-Smile or Barbie on the computer, baths, hiar do's, pretty painted toes, hair dos, and did I mention laundry? But I am not complaining...I love my angels.
   Of course let me not forget the never ending neighborhood children who all seem to view my home as the local recreation center. It amazes me when a child who lives right next door will just breeze in my home, not knocking, asking to use the bathroom or for a drink or snack. I just do not get it. Hello, you live NEXT DOOR !!!
I always open my garage, which is filled with toys, bikes, scooters, pogo sticks, balls, jump ropes, hula hoops, tents, tunnels and much more. So when the girls are out, we are the happening place. I have also entertained their friends in my home, taken kids to Burger King, McD's, etc, the movies, the park, swimming and even overnight slumbers. My backyard is a park, we have swing set, swim pool, sandbox and trees I allow them to climb. Yet it is so very rare that another parent invites my kids anywhere. What is up with that ?
I once had a Jamacian freind and she had this saying: "Every day bucket go to well, one day bottem drop out.
 Well , THE BOTTOM DROPPED OUT ! We no longer play the fools. I am kind, I always treat others how I would like to be treated or how I would like my girls to be treated. But, I finally had to draw the line in regards to the child next door, a child who my two considered their "bestest friend" who everytime I bought them a new something, could not wait to share with her, who has spent, ( I kid you not) at least 200 fun times in my home, care, on outings and eaten more of anything I offer to eat or drink then my two put together.
Yet, over the past three years my children have been invited in her house not more than six times, and each time, she was so worried and stressed about sharing her toys that my girls came home disappointed, very unhappy. Her mother has NEVER taken my kids anywhere, provided a snack or even said thank you.
Last week I noticed she had invited another neighbor child into her house to play two times in a row. So I guess it was not that she, or her parents just did not know better, or did not want any kids in their home, garage, or even front lawn, it was MY kids! I just do not get it.
 I always insist on sharing. It is such an impotant job of a parent to prioritize family and friends over "stuff". Every few months I take many of my girls toys out to our living room. I then let them each pick three or four keepers and ask them to donate the rest to children who have no toys of their own. It is what we do. My kids know that they are Blessed and appreciate what they have. They are not greedy and willingly let go of many toys, games, dolls, dollhouses, and whatever else we have left after the picking in the living room. I know they feel happy knowing that another little boy or girl would enjoy receiving something new, that is just theirs. (Remember, I was a Foster Mommy and I know that many children do not have toys of their own. It is my job to teach my children this, to be a giver, not a taker. But I guess not all parents feel this way. That I have learned.
So now it is 1:30 am...and I MUST, MUST, MUST sleep now...afterall, how will I ever get it all done!
Hasta La Pasta !
xo jansie
added note 10-02-05 okay since this is supposed to be a typical day in my life let me say i have no typical days...
add to the above:
swimming 3-5 times a week for exercise
volunteering weekly to help my 1st graders class
karate three times a week
birthday parties
family visits and celebrations
dance class once a week
daisy club
doctor visits , tests and such to help battle two diseases i am Blessed with..lol
add also the fact that one disease can instantly wipe out my day,
and the other can suddenly wipe out my breath and energy.
so, typically i have days that are consistantly, inconsistant...but I am not complaining...I AM TRULY BLESSED ! Commentaires (10)Pour ajouter un commentaire, connectez-vous avec votre identifiant Windows Live ID (si vous utilisez Messenger ou Xbox LIVE, vous avez un identifiant Windows Live ID). Connectez-vous Vous n'avez pas d'identifiant Windows Live ID ? Inscrivez-vous
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